User talk:Kiwi tea

Welcome
Hi, and welcome to The Sims Wiki, Kiwi tea ! Thanks for your edit to the Rabbit hole page.

Please leave a message on my talk page if I can help with anything about the wiki! (If you have questions about the game, please ask them in the Forum.) -- A morris (Talk) 17:38, 2010 April 24

Hey!
Thanks for all the fixes! I figure people haven't bothered putting them up because EA didn't really draw anyone into the family's stories in WA - probably a good thing because marrying a sim from outside your homeworld is a glitch-prone scenario (you get duplicates and random pregnancies). But they deserve to be recorded here, there are some interesting sims and they've been around a while now. Again, thanks for helping a newbie!

Kiwi tea

You are doing a magnificent job on all the France families and sims. 312 edits already!!!! At this rate, you become a rollback this week! (Actually you could sign up to be a rollback right now!) DavidMC123 Talk2Me

Talkbox
Hey. I noticed you editing around the wiki, and wow, you have a HEE-UGE amount of edits for someone who's joined the wiki so recently. I was wondering if you would want me to make a template for your talkbox, so all you would have to type is; What do you say? Bleeh (talk) 15:59, May 1, 2010 (UTC)

That would be cool. I'm relatively new to wiki-editing, used on for work but it's been a while. Been ill, so I'm sorting of on a Zen out with it all: Insane but relaxing to just sort of process all this so others have a good resource. Kiwi tea 16:03, May 1, 2010 (UTC)
 * Done, now when you want to use it just enter that and put your text in the |text = section :). Bleeh (talk) 16:07, May 1, 2010 (UTC)

Cheers! (Kiwi tea 16:10, May 1, 2010 (UTC))

Thanks!
Hey, thanks for "stepping up" and putting those trait template things at the bottom of those trait pages! I was not looking forward to filling all those in. LostInRiverview (talk)(blog) 10:47, June 19, 2010 (UTC)

Whoops! That's not what I did, I just added the genre bonuses! I have some time, so I'll do some of those now! (Kiwi tea 11:13, June 19, 2010 (UTC))


 * That's fine. I saw it in a few traits and I just assumed you had done them all. My mistake! Thanks for offering to help though. LostInRiverview (talk)(blog) 11:19, June 19, 2010 (UTC)

Life stae
I just wanted to say youre Life stae pic was really cool. 74.71.91.183 21:14, June 25, 2010 (UTC)

Image categories
Hi there, I've seen you add many images to the wiki and I love it. I would like to ask you to put the images in the appropriate categories though. I recently wrote Help:Categorizing images for this wiki, check it out. If you have any further questions about this message or this wiki, you're welcome to leave me a message on my talk page. Duskey ( talk ) 07:54, August 23, 2010 (UTC)

Hi.
Ive seen you around the wiki a lot, but never had time to say hi, so, hi! BobNewbie talk • blog 11:45, November 14, 2010 (UTC)

Hi too, XD. ---Guilherme Guerreiro (talk here) 11:46, November 14, 2010 (UTC)

I'm a random Simmer. Hope you have more things for Late Night. ^^ Moodlet thumbnails are still needed for Vampire moodlets. (eg. Energy, Thirst, Sunlight, After Drinking a Sim, After a Sim has been drank from.)

Jeddings123 02:46, November 17, 2010 (UTC)

World Adventures
I Kiwi tea, I am hard working editor on here and I have seen your work around here and I wanted to know if you are going to create Al Simhara articles, because its are really neecessary and I would love to help creating its, also you have done an extremely good work around here, (that is my personal vision) when it comes to World Adventures related pages. Thanks so much for reading. --Guilherme Guerreiro (talk here) 12:48, December 12, 2010 (UTC)

Re:Questions
Yes I'm actually a boy but I'm not very confortable with my gender, I may have gender identity disorder and that's one of the many reasons why I am being followed by a psychologist, due to my "feminine" behaviour people discriminate me at school, I don't mind about being feminine but when people reject me it is horrible, I find my personality gorgeous to me but my school co-workers are so rude to me sometimes. People here on this wiki treat me as girl because it's the way I like to be treated. You may find this message immensely scary. Thanks for reading. --Guilherme Guerreiro (talk here) 11:25, December 24, 2010 (UTC)

I think you're totally right when you say that people don't should think in those terms, it is been known that men and women's brain differ in some abilities, but society aggravates these differences by discriminating both genders and impose severe rules that each gender has to follow, men and women's brains differ on average 15%, it isn't a great difference, what do you think about this? Also there are some ways to evaluate a male or a female brain. --Guilherme Guerreiro (talk here) 14:17, December 24, 2010 (UTC)


 * I don't find your messages scary at all. :D I think for a lot of people what you're going through is quite normal. I'm a "masculine" gay man married to another boy and we're both in our mid-to-late 20s. I've always been less vulnerable than my "feminine" gay and straight friends, but that doesn't mean I don't observe and understand what they go through just for not conforming to others' gender perceptions. It's extremely hard to quantify the amount that male and female brains differ, but given all I've read in the past I highly doubt it's as high as 15%. Men have more grey matter in certain areas, but that's made up for by certain similar areas in female brains. At any rate, a lot of what it means to be "masculine" or "feminine", outside of some very fixed areas like reproduction, is cultural and learned. Don't mistake differences in behaviour for differences that are hardwired into us. It hurts to be rejected, and "effeminate" men often are. It's hard for gay effeminate men, and it's even harder for straight effeminate men. If you're straight you'll be rejected by girls and people will treat you like you're gay when you're not, and if you're gay than you'll still face discrimination - sadly from other gay men. But in either case there are good people who aren't so stupid and with time you'll find them.


 * I really do strongly recommend learning more about the neuroscience on this issue. If you can get hold of Cordelia Fine's book that I mentioned you might learn a lot. One thing I will say though: I don't think you need to feel like you're a girl. You're a boy who like traditionally girlish things, and you're fighting to make it okay for boys to like those things. Because it is okay. There will be other boys in the future who will thank you for fighting for that.
 * --- (Kiwi tea 20:12, December 24, 2010 (UTC))


 * Recommending a science book in English might not be a great idea if your English isn't too good (although it seems just fine mostly). You might be able to find out more by looking for Portuguese blogs about the neuroscientific study of gender. Be fussy, stick to good science, because there is a lot of rubbish out there about gender issues.
 * Here's an article in Portuguese about the book.
 * Cordelia Fine speech with Portuguese subtitles (It's interesting, but not related).
 * Thanks so much for this huge text!! I usually don't fit the "male category", it isn't just about likes and dislikes it is about how I feel in my body and I'm not comfortable about it, I am really scared about the idea of body hair for example, muscles and those things and this has nothing to do with my sexual orientation, which is a issue that I'm not certain of it, thanks for being understanding. Also, just be sure that I don't have any concern about homossexual people, I don't think being homossexual, bissexual or heterossexual is not a choice as some people claim, we just feel attracted to someone, and it isn't a choice that's what I think. Thanks for providing these thing with Portuguese subtitles, that's very nice of you :)--Guilherme Guerreiro (talk here) 13:48, December 25, 2010 (UTC)
 * I saw it, it's interesting, I think there are some notable differences between boys and girls, though these differences are aggravated by society, I think a male's brain may be more formatted to do some specific tasks the same happens with the female brain, though all of us can be good in all type of tasks if we do an effort, it's also been known that not all men have a male brain and all women have a female brain, there are some interesting tests to measure this if you want to make the test, this is the link: Brain ID test . Also the second link you gave me, the subtitles are in Spanish not in Portuguese :P. Merry Christmas Kiwi tea!! --Guilherme Guerreiro (talk here) 14:17, December 25, 2010 (UTC)
 * Oops. My husband speaks Spanish, so I should have recognised that! I do think it's difficult for the best of us to learn to love our bodies. I wish you good luck learning to love yours. :) Be brave and happy, Guilherme.
 * (PS: Be very careful trusting journalists talking about science, even from good outfits like the BBC. Note that the test draws from psychologists and that psychology is broad and sometimes rather unscientific field. This test may check whose brains are "formatted" for what, but it's likely also testing whose brains have learned what. Brains change a lot, they're living organs, they change all the time. Thought and feelings are changes in the brain. Current research suggets that the differences in formatting between male and female brains are pretty minor, and a lot of the rest is cultural.) (Kiwi tea 21:08, December 25, 2010 (UTC))
 * Yes I know differences are minor but think just in this, why do many women cry in intense movies when men do not? Just an example, when it comes to skills women and men are not very different but the way men and women control their emotions it's different, for example women are more likely to suffer of depression, though this may be as well aggravated by society rules and discrimination, I'm not talking about skills, what do you think? --Guilherme Guerreiro (talk here) 22:50, December 25, 2010 (UTC)
 * I think that women are taught from the moment of their birth that they are more compassionate (and more talkative) than men. Socialisation of children is intense, and produces some results that are arguably more powerful than inborn traits. Women are more emotional, on average, because they are taught that they are more emotional. Science is undecided on how much is inborn, but it looks increasingly like it's less than has been claimed in the past. (PS. A good study earlier this year showed that men and women are equally talkative, on average).
 * (Kiwi tea 00:31, December 26, 2010 (UTC))
 * Hmmm... but I'm sensitive though I was not taught to be like that, I don't think women are taught to be sensitive, maybe, that's because we give them different type of toys and stuff when they're young such as a pink dress or a delicate barbie, and they learn to be more sensitive and aware of other's feelings, of course hormones may be responsible for this emotional difference as well, do you personally think you were taught to like a "masculine man"? --Guilherme Guerreiro (talk here) 13:31, December 26, 2010 (UTC)
 * Hmmm... but I'm sensitive though I was not taught to be like that, I don't think women are taught to be sensitive, maybe, that's because we give them different type of toys and stuff when they're young such as a pink dress or a delicate barbie, and they learn to be more sensitive and aware of other's feelings, of course hormones may be responsible for this emotional difference as well, do you personally think you were taught to like a "masculine man"? --Guilherme Guerreiro (talk here) 13:31, December 26, 2010 (UTC)


 * I think you would like to read this book: Pink brain and Blue Brain, it's very interesting and talks about how culture influences the brains of men and women, the author explains that there are very modest but are agravatted and amplified by society and she explains that those differences can be modified by experience, and those can make a "Female brain" or a "Male brain" but those differences are very superficial. I also think hormones can alterate reactions but that's a minor part and what is the most important is the inside of a person. What do you think about this book? --Guilherme Guerreiro (talk here) 22:20, January 11, 2011 (UTC)