Relationship

"Love" redirects here. For other meanings, see Love (disambiguation).

As soon as a character (Sim or pet) meets another they accumulate relationship points. The number of points two characters have for each other and their life stages determines how they can interact. The score will go up or down depending on whether interactions between the two are positive or negative, but neglecting a positive relationship will result in a gradual decline of the relationship score. However, a negative relationship score will gradually improve until it reaches zero.

The Sims

In the initial release of The Sims, there was a single relationship bar which ran from -100 to 100. The Sims: Hot Date turned this into the daily relationship bar, and added a lifetime relationship bar. While this arrangement was not put into The Sims Deluxe Edition, it was carried forward into subsequent expansion packs, and into The Sims 2.

Two Sims would become friends if each one had a daily relationship of at least 50 toward the other. "Best friend" status was not formally named or recognized, but the lifetime relationship could affect whether or not a social interaction was available, or would be accepted. Once an adult Sim's daily relationship with another hit 70, a successful romantic interaction between the two would result in a crush. If the lifetime relationship was at least 70, it would result in love. This was carried forward into The Sims 2.

Once two Sims had any kind of relationship, the lifetime relationship between them would build as they spent time together on the same lot, even if they didn't interact. However, this increase in lifetime relationship would come at the expense of their daily relationship. Every so often, the daily relationship would drop by two points, and the lifetime relationship would increase by one point. In addition, some interactions between Sims, such as giving gifts, would affect the lifetime relationship. Lifetime relationships tended to be highly stable over time; even if two Sims went a long time without interacting with one another, the lifetime relationship would barely be affected.

The Sims 2

The Sims 2 retains the daily relationship score and lifetime relationship score that were introduced in The Sims: Hot Date. However, characters' relationships with one another no longer change simply because they spend time with, or around, one another. In The Sims 2, the lifetime relationship score gradually approaches the daily relationship score, so over time, two characters' lifetime relationships will build up as long as they continue to interact enough to keep their daily relationships high. Sim relationships could also be raised or lowered with the use of cheats.

In The Sims 2: Pets, pets develop relationships with Sims and other pets. Sims gain relationships with pets by doing positive interactions, such as praising, playing, or giving love. Negative relationship points are given when a Sim scolds or yells at a pet. When teaching a pet tricks, the relationship goes up and down, depending on how fast the pet learns, but will be higher in the end.

Relationship Levels in The Sims 2

This table shows the relationship score needed to attain a relationship type in The Sims 2 (PC)
Scores are Daily unless otherwise noted

Type of relationship	Level of relationship
	-100	-50	-15	-10	-5	0	5	10	15	25	50	60	70	85	100
Inimical	Enemy (<= -50)
Casual			Just Met (> -2 and < 2) Acquaintance (> -50 and < 50)
Amicable											Friend (>= 50)
											Best Friend (Lifetime >= 50)
Romantic													Crush (>= 70)
													Lover (Lifetime >= 70)

Casual

• Just Met: The two characters have met, but have not interacted enough to have a definite relationship. Daily relationship will be close to zero, though it may be positive or negative.

• Acquaintance: The two characters are not friends, and the one whose relationships are being looked at does not consider the other an enemy. The relationship scores may be positive or negative. This is independent of family relationships; parents and children can be acquaintances if their relationship is neither strongly positive or strongly negative.

Inimical

• Enemy: For the PC version, the Enemy relationship is set if each of the two characters has a daily relationship of -50 or less toward the other. Breaking it requires a positive interaction between the two once one character's relationship score has risen above that level.

• Console versions of The Sims 2 also have Arch Enemy. For these versions, the Enemy relationship requires a daily relationship of -15 or less.

Amicable

• Friend: Each of the two characters has a daily relationship of at least 50 toward the other.

• Best Friend: If each of the two characters has a lifetime relationship of at least 50 toward the other, this relationship will be set when they have a positive interaction.

• Best Friend Forever: "Best Friend Forever" was introduced in The Sims 2 FreeTime, and reportedly happens when two characters have been best friends for a certain amount of time.

Romantic

• Crush: Daily relationship of 70 or higher.

• Love: Lifetime relationship of 70 or higher.

• Going Steady: only used by teenaged Sim lovers, and must be proposed by one of them.

These relationships will not automatically be lost when the relationship falls below the required level.

Contacts and Fury

Contacts and Fury were introduced in Nightlife. Contacts are Sims who have heard of a Sim from a mutual friend (They can be playable or Downtownies). They will phone that Sim asking to go downtown on an outing or date. The relationship between your Sim and the Contact is given a boost for a short period of time. Their picture will be blue.

Sims can feel fury at Sims that had a hostile interactions with them. It also occurs when Sims are caught cheating. It decreases the relationship drastically while it's in effect, putting both Daily and Lifetime scores below -50, depending on the "offense" committed. The target of a Sim's fury will have a red overlay on his or her picture. The amount of red roughly indicates how much longer the Sim will remain furious.

Pets' Levels

Cats

• Mine: The cat claims ownership of the Sim or pet; similar to Best Friends

Dogs

• Master: The dog is loyal to the Sim or pet
• Pack: The dog recognizes the Sim or pet as a member of his pack; similar to Friends.
• Best Friend: The dog treats the Sim or another pet as a close friend.

The Sims 3

The relationships in The Sims 3 are slightly different from its predecessors. It does not measure how many "relationship points" a Sim has, and Sims have one relationship bar.

Before two Sims meet, they are strangers, but upon their first interaction they become acquaintances. The next level in an amicable relationship is friend, then good friend, then best friend. Teen Sims also have the option to ask another teen Sim to become BFF (best friends forever) if their relationship is at the best friend status. Long-lasting amicable relationships eventually become marked as old friends.

In an inimical relationship, the first level is disliked, then enemy. It is also possible in this kind of relationship to declare the other a "nemesis". Long-lasting inimical relationships eventually become marked as old enemies.

In a romantic relationship the first level is romantic interest. This can be reverted back to an amicable relationship by asking to "just be friends". Then, if one Sim proposes to go steady with the other, boyfriend/girlfriend. In order to gain access to the proposal you must initiate a series of romantic interactions between the Sims until they display a message saying they are finding the other sim "extremely irresistible" at which point "Propose Go Steady" will become available. If this relationship ends, by breaking up, the Sims are marked as ex-girlfriends/ex-boyfriends. Then again, if one Sim proposes marriage to the other, it's fiancé(e), then husband/wife. Ending an engagement by breaking up results in becoming ex-girlfriend/ex-boyfriend, but ending a marriage results in ex-wife/ex-husband. Ending any sort of romantic relationship results in a heavy drop in the relationship bar. In order to become a friends once these statuses are reached, the Sims must have a high enough relationship bar and be friendly to each other until the option appears to "just be friends".

When a Sim plays the guitar, the relationship will steadily increase with whomever is watching the Sim play.

The Charisma skill and certain traits such as Flirty, Unflirty, Friendly, Hot-headed, and Charismatic, for example, also affect the speed at which certain types of relationship levels are achieved.

None of the above changes in The Sims 3: World Adventures.

Marriage

Sims require a high relationship to become married or joined, but the state of being married or joined is not lost autonomously if the relationship score declines.